I've been sitting on this draft for a long time, and I have decided to publish it now, especially as "defense of marriage" is so hot right now. It's an imperfect essay, but it sure means well and it won't hurt anyone. SO feel free to comment all you want.
What is marriage, really?
It is, in its original sense, a bonding under a deity where the two people become one. But by now you probably know I don't believe in deities, so we will toss that angle into the rubbish.
In another sense, it is a government contract. Legally, married couples share a financial interest, they are privy to each others medical secrets, legal wranglings, etc. I suppose a notary public could do the same, but apparently not, since there is such a demand for marriage, marriage, marriage. (Marsha, Marsha, Marsha!)
So why do gay people want to be married? If it's for the legal benefits, why not get a lawyer, draw up a legal contract, and sign it? What really is to stop me from signing a contract affording another person certain rights? It's a free country. If I declare my personal information is to be shared with another person, regardless of gender, I can legally do that. So that can't be the issue.
If for religious reasons, well, if your god is not just, find a new one. Or none at all. I am not telling you what to do here. I am just saying that if religion is your barrier, break something down. Figure it out. Plenty of sects of religions recognize same-sex pairings, so that's not the issue either.
The real reason people care about gay marriage so much? Well, all folks want to have the same regard as others get. The acceptance of gay marriage is less a legal or a religious issue than it is a moral one. It simply is a need for acceptance. (And as I have always absolutely gotten gay people, I honestly will not ever understand the fuss.)
I've seen men empathetically console a friend, and I have seen women pee standing up. Unless I choose to mate with you, your gender is a bullshit excuse for anything. And being that mating is a private matter usually, despite what the porn industry depicts, there is no public matter which requires genital display.
That should include the union of two people.
Don't get me wrong, I believe in love. Love is awesome, and it demands a great deal of an individual. Love keeps us happy and healthy and whole. As The Captain And Tennille said, love will keep us together.
So what is marriage but a social convenience, a means for acceptance, a ploy for appeal? It is a tool for the empowered to flaunt their greatness. It is an arbitrary goal for our youth to blindly strive for.
In short, it is one of our society's greatest scams.
Back in the day, marriage was necessary to increase population. We really could stand a few less people in our world, so to me marriage serves not even that totally utilitarian purpose.
Half the married people I know are breaking up, and most of the rest tolerate misery in their marriage. Sounds like a sucker deal to me.
Think for yourself, decide for yourself, and for crying out loud examine your world before making the leap into marriage, gay or not.
It might be good for you. I kinda doubt it, but hey, I've been wrong.
What is marriage, really?
It is, in its original sense, a bonding under a deity where the two people become one. But by now you probably know I don't believe in deities, so we will toss that angle into the rubbish.
In another sense, it is a government contract. Legally, married couples share a financial interest, they are privy to each others medical secrets, legal wranglings, etc. I suppose a notary public could do the same, but apparently not, since there is such a demand for marriage, marriage, marriage. (Marsha, Marsha, Marsha!)
So why do gay people want to be married? If it's for the legal benefits, why not get a lawyer, draw up a legal contract, and sign it? What really is to stop me from signing a contract affording another person certain rights? It's a free country. If I declare my personal information is to be shared with another person, regardless of gender, I can legally do that. So that can't be the issue.
If for religious reasons, well, if your god is not just, find a new one. Or none at all. I am not telling you what to do here. I am just saying that if religion is your barrier, break something down. Figure it out. Plenty of sects of religions recognize same-sex pairings, so that's not the issue either.
The real reason people care about gay marriage so much? Well, all folks want to have the same regard as others get. The acceptance of gay marriage is less a legal or a religious issue than it is a moral one. It simply is a need for acceptance. (And as I have always absolutely gotten gay people, I honestly will not ever understand the fuss.)
I've seen men empathetically console a friend, and I have seen women pee standing up. Unless I choose to mate with you, your gender is a bullshit excuse for anything. And being that mating is a private matter usually, despite what the porn industry depicts, there is no public matter which requires genital display.
That should include the union of two people.
Don't get me wrong, I believe in love. Love is awesome, and it demands a great deal of an individual. Love keeps us happy and healthy and whole. As The Captain And Tennille said, love will keep us together.
So what is marriage but a social convenience, a means for acceptance, a ploy for appeal? It is a tool for the empowered to flaunt their greatness. It is an arbitrary goal for our youth to blindly strive for.
In short, it is one of our society's greatest scams.
Back in the day, marriage was necessary to increase population. We really could stand a few less people in our world, so to me marriage serves not even that totally utilitarian purpose.
Half the married people I know are breaking up, and most of the rest tolerate misery in their marriage. Sounds like a sucker deal to me.
Think for yourself, decide for yourself, and for crying out loud examine your world before making the leap into marriage, gay or not.
It might be good for you. I kinda doubt it, but hey, I've been wrong.
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